Unanswered Questions

Side note- I started this out as questions to myself over the last few months that I wasn’t sure anyone would even see. I then decided that I would answer each question with advice/more thoughts and share them because we could all just use a little extra love and support.

how come every time you have something to celebrate, you’re bragging?

throughout life and all your mile stones, you find out who is truly there for you and who is only there because they are benefiting from you. people tend to leave you when you no longer serve a purpose to them or their life. be careful because there are more snakes among your “friends” than you realize. people thrive off your downfalls and they are waiting for you to fail because they cannot stand to see you “doing better than them” even though we all know we have our own timelines.

how come every time you have overcome something dark, you’re strong?

trauma is something fierce that sneaks up on us sometimes when we least expect it and sometimes it’s something we fight more than we initially realize. whether it’s from childhood, early adulthood or even from yesterday. your strength is not to be minimized as you have overcome something you didn’t think you would. that’s absolutely worth giving yourself credit for. don’t feel like you have to make yourself smaller to allow others to feel bigger. CELEBRATE YOUR STRENGTH.

everything has been said and done before. but not by you & that is your power.

I used to search hours and hours for the “perfect” quote or saying to describe how I was feeling because words speak to me. I couldn’t ever find anything close and then it clicked- DO IT YOURSELF. I started writing because I needed my words to be heard and people slowly encouraged me to do it more often than just for myself. I realized that I was actually helping and encouraging others to share their stories as well.

why is it easier to write when things are bad than when they are good?

I was having a prior conversation with a friend and she asked me how I was doing. I was catching her up on things and she brought up my writing. she asked how that was going and I stated I haven’t been writing as much for the simple fact that we had been busy and I just hadn’t made the time to do so. she made me realize that my writing is a positive outlet for my negative thoughts and that I need it to be an outlet for ALL OF MY THOUGHTS & not just the negative. I need to continue with my passion even things are GOOD and BAD.

you have compassion, kindness and love for other people. why do you not show yourself the same respect?

It’s hard to look at yourself without a mirror. You see yourself everyday, you pick at the flaws of your face, your hair, your body, even sometimes your heart. You don’t see yourself through the eyes of others and sometimes we all wish we could and maybe just maybe- we’d be a little more loving toward ourselves. We deserve to be kind to ourselves and love ourselves as much as we love others.

you don’t have to carry it all. it gets heavy.

Everyday is hard. If you struggled, I’m with you. This life is not fair and sometimes it just feels so defeating and like you’re constantly being hit while you’re down. Please remember- you don’t have to do or carry the heaviness alone. Take the support of your loved ones and if you need someone, I am here. This is a safe space and a judgement free zone. You got through today and I’m proud of you.

when will you forgive yourself for all you have been through and all you put yourself through?

Sometimes, it really just takes time because eventually, you will be able to tell your story without the tears, fear, regret or shame that comes with it. There was a time where I didn’t think I would be able to talk about certain things even on paper or through a screen. Be patient with yourself because it’s okay if you’re still fragile. We all are.

*I also wanted to give an update because people have been questioning and worried that I haven’t posted in some time.

I haven’t forgotten about you. We have just been busy and for those who don’t know- we unexpectedly lost my brother-in-law in September 2022 so things have just been really hard as we find a new normal. We are getting through it but times are tough and my heart is broken. I hope to take that power and put it into my finger tips to continue writing for ya’ll, but please be patient. I will be back and I will be stronger than ever with more material.

I LOVE YOU. Thank you for the overwhelming love and support.